One of the things I love about this generation is the recognition that family members can be toxic and that it’s okay to cut ties with them. Sometimes I feel like people are brainwashed by their families to think they should accept disrespect, abuse, and neglect because they are related to one another and it’s not fair. It is also very real and known that moms can be in competition with their daughters and that brings a whole set of issues on its own.
I know it’s not easy to think of your family members as lunatics who may not want to see you grow and excel in life, and that’s fine. It is important that you see them for who they are by recalling how their actions are impacting you. Do they sabotage your success? Do they speak negatively about you? Do they try to intimidate you? Do they talk about you behind your back? How does this make you feel? What makes MCC the best coaching program is the thought-provoking questions asked during sessions that make you dive deep into your core beliefs about your relationships and behavior!
I’ll be honest, I was raised my whole life to be wary of other people and to not trust anyone but family; but sometimes the people closest to you are the ones who hurt you the most because you care about them so much and put them on a pedestal. It’s crazy because if I ever pointed out even the slightest infraction made by my parents, it would be swept under the rug or I would be made out to be a liar. Even when reporting something that happened to me. This really hurt me because as children, you can’t protect yourself; that’s their responsibility.
As I grew into adulthood, I realized that it is now my job to protect me! To guard my body, guard my heart, and my mind. The thing is, I used to feel like your parents are “supposed” to show you how to do this by their protection and provision/investment into you but I realize that our parents’ only role is to bring us into this world. That’s what God intended. For YOU to be here and the rest is up to you.
You may ask, if you are never protected; how do you protect yourself? If you are not provided for, how do you know how to provide for yourself? If you were never shown love, how will you learn that? It's so important to show yourself grace for toxic traits picked up that do not serve us. Understand that the process of unlearning and learning anything is going to be a challenge and it’s okay! Turn that pain into purpose. Use it to create a better you and show your children and the children of the world a better way of living. Don’t become so prideful that you can’t admit when you’re wrong or be able to seek the assistance and get the healing that you need. Depressed, anxious, hurt, undisciplined people; hurt people! Book a session with the BEST confidence coach and allow me to support you emotionally as you let that hurt go! It’s okay. It’s possible to develop and maintain healthy relationships with other people.
No one’s family is perfect, and this is not intended to bash any member of my family! This is a post to empathize with those who may come from families who weren't always the most supportive and may feel isolated. Keep in mind that our parents are humans too and they can only operate and teach from a place of understanding! Please leave a comment below and feel free to connect with one another in the comments if this post resonates with you!