When you speak, it's easy to sugar coat things to avoid hurting someone’s feelings or being callous but at the same time; it can alter your message if you’re not careful. If you need to add fluff words because the person you’re speaking with is extra sensitive; then cool but if you read the message once you’ve added the fluff and it takes away from the tone or the actual message; change it back because “you said what you said”!!!
I wanted to give you a list of "desperate" things to stay away from when communicating:
Funny thing, I started to implement these practices with my job when I was 19. I used to work at McDonalds and if any of you have ever worked in fast food, they care nothing about the schedule. My supervisor would text me and say “Can you come to work today from 12-5?”; and I would say “No”. No explanation. I answered the question, they don’t need to know why unless I originally committed to being at work. That would be a different story and even then, I don't really need to tell them why; they just need to know I won’t be there in a timely manner so they can find my replacement. The reason is an added courtesy.
This is a difficult practice to adopt so I do not expect for you ladies to have this perfected. I just encourage you to empower yourself and begin communicating more effectively and straight-forward. Not only will people take you seriously and know you mean business, it will also boost your confidence! Stop being so desperate for a person’s approval that you forget that your approval of self matters the most. Read my book, Stop Being So Desperate, Sis!
Love, Your Confidence Coach XOXO