When I attended college, I learned that women do not typically negotiate their salary. Women take what they are given, don’t always consider company advancement, and experience higher rates of burnout. My training at this all-women’s college gave me the backbone I needed to become a confidence coach.
Now before you get carried away, this is not one of those feminist, anti-men, or anti-government posts where we will curse everything and everyone for the design of patriarchy. What I will say is that although it served us then, the system is not serving us now.
There was a time where women could not have bank accounts, own property, or make purchases without men. Men would work outside the home while women worked inside and were homemakers. If a woman had a job, it would be something like a beauty parlor or boutique where it could be added onto her home and she would not have to spend much time away to operate it. Other women sold fruits, veggies, honey, cakes/pies, or any other delectables that could be grown in a garden or on a farm. Most men were present in their homes, didn’t make excuses for their inability to provide, and took pride in caring for their families. Then came war.
The Vietnam War took a lot of men away from their homes through killings, physical disabilities, and mental disabilities. Your husband may have come back home with all his limbs but his mind was in the field. Or he may have returned home with an addiction to opiates and/or alcohol. In this instance, women were either forced to return to their parents’ with their children in tow or required to become the breadwinner in their homes. There were also a lot of women working due to the factory jobs needing workers when the men were away. After all...the U.S. economy must go on, right?
Women began to push for equal pay due to their forced position as breadwinners; not because women felt like we MUST have a job or DO NOT want their husbands. This narrative is being pushed by men who feel inadequate instead of requiring their wife or girlfriend to leave the workforce and start her own brand in the field she desires to be in. Anywho, what is your perspective on this? You know I’m #TeamProvider all day and I really feel for the women who desire the same but got stuck with a dusty for a husband and then had children with him; expecting her to pay half the bills when women earn .75 for each dollar a man makes! It’s absurd. To sum it up, if you want women to work; then pay them what they should be paid. If you don’t want women to work; take care of your responsibilities!!!!!
Love, Your Confidence Coach XOXO